Courtship strives to answer the question, How can I honor God and discern His direction regarding my life partner? Is it just me, or does this definition make it sound like dating is for heathens, pagans, and people who have no regard for God’s will in their life?
As though anyone who chooses dating is selfish, impulsive, immature, and have no understanding of commitment and absolutely no boundaries. Maybe I’m reading into this, but I think the strong reaction I am having to this definition is because it’s not just words on a page for me, it’s something I actually experienced for a time within the context of the Church.
What if you’re not ready to “kiss dating goodbye”, but you’re also sick and tired of how the world views relationships?
Christians need to stop pushing Courtship because there is another way to honor God with your life and with your dating relationships, and it’s found within the context of personal health, wisdom, balance, and good relationship choices (that’s what is all about!! Because courtship isn’t the “only way”: I think the conversation of dating vs.
I don’t point the finger at any Church in particular, nor do I blame any particular Church Leader. In fact, just today, with the words to this article still spinning around in my head, I got an email from a young woman that said this, “I’m 32 years old and have never been in a romantic relationship because I bought into the ideal that true love doesn’t date.
You see, for so many years, I was taught that “Dating” was the enemy. That it was for people who weren’t “waiting on God” but rather taking life into their own hands. I was a young woman who wanted to please God with all of my heart. What I have come to understand is that God works differently with different people and that He has used my stance to further His purpose for my life.
For many years, I didn’t date AT ALL – partly because I wanted to be in God’s will, but mostly because I WAS TERRIFIED SICK OF RELATIONSHIPS! Dating with boundaries, dating with purpose, dating with intent. Just like different personalities respond to different kinds of music, food, hobbies, and career goals – we’re all wired to respond differently to relationships.Here’s what this particular source stated: “The main difference between dating and courtship involves the goals to be reached by spending time with a potential marriage partner.Men and women who choose to date often have no commitment to consider marrying the other person.In contrast, courtship is undertaken only when both parties are prepared to make a commitment to marriage.Dating tries to answer the question, How can I find the one who will make me happy?