Trust me: If you choose to continue dating, sooner or later you will end up on the receiving end of that nastiness. No joke: Head for the hills if your date starts mouthing off about his or her ex.Relationships rarely end because of the fault of only one member of the couple, so anyone who speaks badly about an ex on a date lacks insight into why the relationship really failed.
As a result of this emotional reactivity, you find yourself walking on eggshells and afraid to be yourself. Jealousy, suspiciousness, possessiveness, and accusations: You partner accuses you of being unfaithful, is suspicious of your relationships, acts like he/she owns you and your time, and shows extreme jealousy.This is even worse if the person is defensive about the issue when you bring it up. Lying: If you have caught your partner in lies, you can assume there will be more lies in the future, unless the issue underlying the lies is resolved. Control: Your partner tries to control who you see, what you do, and how you live your life.At first, this may feel caring, but the underlying issues behind control are deep and lead to abuse later on. Emotional/verbal/physical abuse: Your partner uses manipulative and controlling tactics such as put downs, minimizing, ridicule, name calling, discounting, hostile anger, threats, withdrawal, and physical violence.Acts rudely or disrespectfully to others during the date.It never fails: I hear people say every day that they didn’t see the warning signs until it was too late.