I spent considerable time talking with men friends who had done relationship work.
I quickly discovered that they were right, and no matter how good casual sex was, it couldn't equal the raw sexual energy, passion, and satisfaction that sex with a woman I love provides.
According to one study, approximately 15 percent of married couples are sexless: Spouses haven’t had sex with each other in the past six months to one year. I have debated admitting this publicly, but my story feels different than the narrative advanced by our patriarchal society. Because I was the one begging for sex from an uninterested male partner.
Sex 10 times a year would have been 10 times more than what I was having. As a gynecologist, I’m frequently asked about the “right number” of times to have sex a month. If both people are truly happy, then it’s a healthy sex life. Messaging around sex is everywhere: It’s used to sell almost everything, and news articles remind us that various hormones and neurotransmitters may spike in response to having sex.
Yet a single hormone surge does not a rewarding relationship make, and virtually no one has studied the hormonal impact, on a relationship, of grocery shopping, making dinner or doing the dishes.
If a couple doesn’t have sex but they both feel satisfied, then there is no problem. Of course, libido ebbs and flows, and there will be times when one partner is temporarily uninterested.
Granted, what's worthwhile to me doesn't necessarily apply to everyone, but I'm honestly puzzled why a woman would voluntarily spend the next several decades without a partner.Women may be more adept at emotional dialogue, but whether men are as capable or not, most boomer guys date to be in a relationship.A man who is reluctant to commit may simply not be interested in spending the rest of his life with a particular woman. Sure, some guys drink the Kool-Aid and buy into the myth that younger women are easier to please and less bitter and angry than boomer women.Maybe it's because I'm a guy and we're hardwired differently. Sexless In Seattle My dating experience with boomer women suggests that few are fans of casual sex, so it's likely that giving up dating also means giving up sex.Considering the physical and emotional highs associated with sex with a loving partner, this seems an awful lot to surrender.