Using our travel example, mention the last place you went and why it was unexpected or amazing. If you struggle with humor, shyness, or generally aren’t likeable here are some ideas: This tip comes from the world of improv rule and boils down to: be 100% positive, keep the conversation moving, don’t argue.
If your response is, “I’m kinda boring,” consider this: Everyone – – is interesting. You might think it’s cute or show off your intelligence to get into a disagreement, but that comes with big risks.
Second, it pays to be confident and specific in setting up a meeting but you should still send signals she can have as much control over how and when as she wants.
For example, after you’ve gotten the green light to meet up, be with a message like, “I'm free Friday, or if early next week is more convenient Tuesday works too.” You want a firm commitment to a specific time (for dealing with flakes) but to let her know she’s the ultimate decider.
Apply that to who you (really) are and trust that the right people will connect with it.
This advice is given from the perspective of men seeking women (since that's largely our experience), but it applies to everyone.
And remember: you’re not just trying to time to meet up. Are they genuinely into you, or just responding to the attention? It’s also important not to misrepresent yourself for if (and when) you meet up with someone.
But here’s the thing: this advice is easy to give because it’s easy to implement.
What money can’t buy: the tool kit to write solid messages, get quality conversations going, and get dates. This is the most challenging aspect of the entire messaging game. You simply don’t have the time to start the conversation at “hello.” You need to dive right into the second act so you can decide whether to ask them out before they disappear.
The second act is getting to the kind of fun, playful exchange that allows you to share some kind of emotional connection with the other person.
If you’re the kind of guy who does this, stop reading this article, get off the apps, and seek help.
For most guys, however, it means just a few commonsense best practices. Flirt, but keep it G or PG until you’re face to face.